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Skinny Brain Vs. Fat Brain

You might not know it, but “fat brain” and the rest of your limiting beliefs are holding you back.

Recognizing My Own Limits

Why is losing 20 pounds so much harder than losing 200 pounds?

That’s a question I’ve really been struggling with lately.

After all… I used to be over 400 pounds.

Now after losing 200 pounds, my weight is sitting at just under 200 pounds. And I’ve just been sitting here for a while now.

I love my body. I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished. But the truth is I do want to lose more weight. It just feels like my body is just happy being here.

If you’ve poked around the weight loss community or forums at all you might have heard the term “happy weight” or “set weight”.

The weight that you’re meant to be. The weight that your body is going to scratch and crawl and fight to stay at.

For almost a year, I just kinda accepted that 200 pounds might be my body’s happy weight. It seems like I can eat as much or as a little as I want and my weight doesn’t budge. But after much self-reflection, I refuse to accept that somehow it’s my ‘destiny’ to be close to 200 pounds at 5’ 5”

After many late nights asking the universe for some kind of answer to the million-dollar question of why I feel so stuck at 200 I think I’ve come up with the answer.

Fat Brain.

Yep. Fat Brain. I have it. You might have it too.

Something I’ve noticed is that people who only have 20 or 30 pounds to lose are often “naturally” skinny people.

They’ve been thin their whole life. They are usually surrounded by equally thin people. They never really developed a weight problem until after a major life event. Graduating college, getting married, having a baby…

Me on the other hand… I’ve been fat my whole life.

I was over 300 pounds by the time I reached middle school, and dangerously close to 400 pounds by the time I reached my 16th birthday.  I grew up around fat people.

Being big was just the norm. Likely if you have 40, 50, or more pounds to lose, this is relatable.

Limiting Beliefs Define Your Life

Fat Brain comes down to a single, simple but dangerous limiting belief. “I’m fat.”

In order to lose weight, you need to lose the limiting belief.

Limiting beliefs are things that are embedded in our brains. Many of them were embedded in our minds from a young age by family, friends, or the media. They usually start with phrases  “I can” or “I can’t” “I am” or “I’m not”. These are manufactured personal attributes, they do not define “you”.

Whether they are subconscious or conscious limiting beliefs are extremely harmful when it comes to achieving our goals.

Limiting beliefs are the imagined ideas that keep us from unlocking our true potential and reaching our goals.

Think about it.

Naturally smaller people are more likely to think “I am skinny” or “I CAN lose weight.” And of course, they can. They’ve already been skinny once… so why wouldn’t they be able to obtain it again?

I’ve always self-identified as a fat person. I’ve never been skinny.  I’ve never felt skinny. It’s hard to even begin to imagine what that feels like.

You often hear the idea of a skinny person trapped in a fat person body

Well, I usually feel like a fat person trapped in a skinny person’s body.

Or at least a skinnier person’s body.

Part of it’s the body dysmorphia. I look in the mirror expecting to see a 300-pound woman looking back. She’s never there, but the idea of her lives on. But that person was there for most of my life and it has not been easy to let the idea of her go.

But this limiting belief that I AM that girl is exactly my problem. I’ll never be able to truly embrace a smaller, fitter, healthier me, if I can’t let go of the fat, could barely get out of bed me.

At the end of the day, you are who you think you are.

Commit to Ditching Limiting Beliefs

So yeah, I have been a fat person my whole life. My whole life up to this moment. But I don’t have to be a fat person for the rest of my life.

So instead of self-identifying as ‘fat’ or ’chubby’ from this moment on


Too much?


But who cares. Because the point is… I can be whatever or whoever I want to be. As long as I believe that I can achieve something, I have the power to make it happen. Ditch the limits and replace them with positive intentions and thoughts of success.

Becoming aware of your own limiting beliefs is the key to changing them. Gaining power over your limiting beliefs is the key to taking control of your own life.

So… What are your limiting beliefs?